Relationship Advice

I actually really like doing these advice columns on my blog. I feel like sometime I like to give people advice and that's just part of my therapeutic nature. Sometimes I need these posts as a documentation of what I've gone through and I know it's not only me and as a sixteen year old aspiring blogger, doing book reviews in my spare time, I though why not make my blog a book/lifestyle documentation. I mean I do take very lovely pictures. In addition, sometimes I also need to take my own advice. This is all from my heart to yours so I hope you appreciate this and I hope this may help you in some way.

My top 7 things to consider and to do: 

1. Give it two days. You will feel much better after two days. I know it feels like your body is going to collapse and your heart will explode in all the wrong ways but all I have to say is, give it two days. You will feel better. 

2. Don't contact them in those two days, or even the days after that unless it's absolutely necessary. That means don't facebook them, stalk them on twitter, watch their snapchat stories, text them, call them (?!!? why you would do this, I have no idea), etc. 

3. If you feel terrible about it, I'm 90% sure they do as well. 

4. Eat whatever you want. But don't not eat, don't stop yourself from eating. It's unhealthy and you don't need that. 

5. Have a hot pack/hot water-bottle wherever you go. Whether that's going to bed, just sitting reading, watching a movie, walking around your house, it will make you feel at ease and its warm and fuzzy.

6. Take care of yourself. You will get over this. I believe in everything happening for a reason. You may not believe in that, but sometimes it's good to look at it in a different perspective. Pamper yourself, you are too good. 

7. "People will always say mean things. When you feel like you can't win, remember they're the losers."

Getting over friendships and break-ups. What is a toxic relationship? How do we define it? 

Every relationship is different. There will be similarities but we cannot generalise those to everyone. There are plenty of blog posts on this topic around the internet so I won't delve into it, just google it. All I have to say is, get a second opinion. If you catch yourself pondering then just let go and leave. It's one of the hardest things in the world but sometimes it's for your own well-being and as always, time heals all wounds. All the love.

Advice for actual relationships including two people whether that be romantically or just platonically but you are both invested to each other. Here are some advice/tips from some of my friends:

Give them your full attention but not too much or too little
Don't forget their birthday
Show interest in the things they like
Don't do long distance if you can help it, only agree if they are worth it
Don't be scared to date your best/good friend, if you're really that close you'll get through the potential breakup

Books...re-read your books. I'm always a fan for going back to books that make you nostalgic when you're in a bad mood. So: Harry Potter is always a 10/10 go to! 

Movies....I'm not sure why but when bad stuff happens to be I always gravitate to movie marathons. Please take time off for yourself no matter what. You need it. So go do it. These are the few movies I watched when I went through a friend break-up and some of these movies make me laugh and some made me cry. They are bitter sweet and I'm sure you will all enjoy them as well. Obviously these are just a few, I can't think of all my favourites but these are just the latter:

500 Days of Summer
Flipped
The Devil Wears Prada
Shrek
Love Actually
Harry Potter
The Help 

Tv Shows to marathon:
Greys Anatomy
Friends
Parks and Recreation
Law and Order SVU
The Mindy Project
Bobs Burgers

Time heals all wounds.

xx
take care!